All couples go through difficult times. That's a given.
But when you've got to the point where you don't really want to be in the same room or feel like you live in a tense and uncomfortable atmosphere and want things to change, then now is the time to get help.
I am trained to be able to pick up on signals that you may be missing or are simply not getting or hearing or don't understand. I can help you respond to each other and start the communication working again for both of you, provided that both of you want to.
It may be that one of you has 'checked out' of the relationship already?
Where do you go from here?
My role is not to put two people back together who don't want to both be together. But what I will do is help you to reach a solution, find a way forward in a respectful and open way and be I will remain a neutral party.
Here are some examples of topics you may want us to cover during our sessions:
- Identifying and negotiating mutual wants, needs, values and goals
- Addressing emotional and compatibility issues
- Discovering and overcoming disagreements and obstacles
- Developing mutual understanding and acceptance of differences in personality, habits and views
- Developing strategies to be able to make mutually agreeable decisions
- Developing coping mechanisms for work and home-life stresses and challenges
With the ultimate goal being building lasting trust, friendship, partnership and loyalty and of course...love.
How does it work?
I will see each participant separately initially and the female partner or initial female contact first.
When you are on your own, you can each speak freely about what you feel are the issues without the other objecting, arguing or interrupting and each of you are much more likely to be honest and frank.
Seeing you separately helps me to clearly define the needs and wants of each party more easily.
You will then be invited to attend together. (You may be happier to work separately).
Then we put strategies in place to ensure that the past does not complicate the future and feelings of anger and resentment and any previous issues can be dealt with in a much better way for both of you.
The sessions focus on the future, because no matter what happened in the past, you can make it better and learn to respect, appreciate and move forward with all parties moving in the same direction.
Not against each other, but beside each other.
I would recommend a minimum of 4 - 8 sessions at fortnightly intervals. Every person is different, so you may need fewer or additional sessions.
The first session will involve me getting to know you, your life and your wants and needs.
When you come for your next session, we will start working through the issues you outlined previously and how we can make it work for the future in your relationship. This gives us the foundation for future sessions.
Relationship Coaching will give positive results quickly and will have an impact on any relationship that is struggling.
I don't charge for a 'course' of sessions; you simply pay at the beginning of each session as and when you need them.
I do not expect you, nor want you to commit to a lengthy course of sessions.
Regardless of the outcome of the relationship, I will always be available to support you so that your life continues in the best and brightest way possible.
Couples Coaching Fees:
Both of you attending together: 1 hr - £85. 90 mins: £115
1 to 1 sessions where you attend on your own: £65. 1 to 1 90 min sessions: £90. 30 min Pep Talk Booster Call £35 (via Zoom/Facetime/Telephone)
Daytime and Evening Appointments are available for Relationship Coaching
A 50% deposit is required to secure your appointment. Appointments cannot be held or saved for any length of time. 24 hrs notice is required to cancel/change your appointment or the full fee is charged and your deposit lost.
Relationship Coaching works for any relationships, whether it be loving partners, parent/child or family relationships.
Where there are two or more people struggling to communicate, be heard or feel appreciated, Coaching will work!
I will be there as a third-party offering guidance and support and helping you all to work out what you can do to improve your family relationships from now on.
Relationship Coaching will give positive results quickly but it's not a quick fix. It takes hard work and you have to want to make the relationship work!
Now I don't have a magic wand, but what I do have is an intuitive mind and the patience of a saint so I will work with you at your pace - but remember that Coaching is about moving forward. Staying stuck sucks the life out of you and there's nothing worse than that awful feeling of dreading going home!
So we will explore the symptoms, causes and consequences of all the issues you are experiencing and work to resolve them all, one by one with me acting as a guide if you like, enabling you to look at each situation in a different way so that you get a much better outcome that fits better for you all.
No blame, no judgement, just understanding and looking at changing how you approach problems in the future so that you can all live in a peaceful loving home.
Coaching can help Families with:
- Teenagers and the changes of the family dynamic
- Step-Parenting Roles
- Setting boundaries
- Anxiety or stress management
- Anger management
- Discipline difficulties
- Differing parenting approaches
- School difficulties
- Peer group pressures
If what you've been doing hasn't been working for you then changing your thinking patterns, changing your responses and changing your actions will ultimately change everything.
Fees: 1 to 1 (individual members seen alone) 1hr session: £65
Group session 1hr £105
Group session 90 min £145
A 50% deposit is required to secure your appointment. Appointments cannot be held or saved for any length of time. 24 hrs notice is required to cancel/change your appointment or the full fee is charged and your deposit forfeited.
"We didn't know what to expect, but Andrea was amazing. She is patient yet focused and she has helped us massively." S & P Braintree
"I was having problems with my ex-husband and whilst he wouldn't come to the appointments, Andrea has really helped me look at everything in a much less destructive way. I know now that I will be fine!"
"All we did was argue about petty stuff. We didn't speak to each other much at all. We tried therapy but nothing improved. By chance we found Andrea. She seemed to 'get' what was happening pretty quickly and by the 4th session we actually started to laugh again together. It's been hard work but worth it." T & S, Colchester
"My husband and I were struggling with our teenage son. Andrea has been so helpful and as a result we have completely changed our approach towards him and his behaviour has improved." The Grahams. Colchester
"I have never had a great relationship with my father. My friend recently saw Andrea and sung her praises so we went. It has been a huge weight off my shoulders and my dad and I are now improving the way we talk to each other." Michelle, Westcliff-on-Sea
"My wife and I had drifted apart. By chance a mate of mine knew someone who had seen Andrea. I think that we thought that it would be a quick fix. But, we have seen her for a few months now and the difference has been amazing. We are both thankful we found such a straight forward person who knows what she's talking about. Just wish we'd gone sooner. J & S. The Rodings.